The Power of a Self-regulated Mama
If I'm having a bad day… everyone is having a bad day.
If I'm having a good day… everyone is generally happier too.
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✨Women, moms, are often the primary nurturers in a family dynamic.
✨Our littles look to us, gravitate towards us and pick up on our energies.
✨Our partners & older kids read our nonverbals, listen to our tones and observe our actions.
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘬-𝘭𝘰𝘢𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 it is to know that our mood, behavior, reaction/action can so powerfully impact an entire household.
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘬-𝘭𝘰𝘢𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳 𝘸𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦.
We call this exchange of familial energies and behaviors 𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗲𝗴𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻.
𝗥𝗲𝗴𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 ourselves means 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴, 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴, 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘢 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 rather than a place of reactivity (even if that moment of stability feels fleeting).
𝗖𝗼-𝗿𝗲𝗴𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 is 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘨𝘶𝘪𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘮𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 of 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴, 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴, 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 with another person. It is incredibly powerful.
One of the biggest payoffs of co-regulation is that your family will learn self-regulation and your 𝙚𝙣𝙚𝙧𝙜𝙮, 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙨𝙥𝙖𝙘𝙚 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙨 𝙢𝙤𝙧𝙚 𝙛𝙧𝙚𝙚𝙙𝙤𝙢.
What are some ways we become a better source of social-emotional co-regulation?
1️⃣Understand your stressors
2️⃣Learn to communicate with your body
3️⃣Develop (healthy) coping mechanism
4️⃣Practice with those we love
These are four pillars I use when working with women who experience chronic stress that revolutionizes how they can show up for themselves and their families.
✨I hope this validates and provides insight into your experiences and you feel empowered by this knowledge.
✨I hope you know that life is a journey and there is always room to change how we are doing things.
✨Lastly, I hope you know I see you, I hear you and I support you wherever you are!
